Knowing Body Positivity, The First Step to Loving Yourself
Being stuck in the friendzone is definitely not fun. This situation can make a person become frustrated and feel negative emotional turmoil. So that you don't get entangled in the friendzone, let's identify the characteristics and how to overcome them.
Friendzone is a term that describes a situation in which one of the individuals in a friendship relationship, whether male or female, has feelings for more than just friends. In fact, he has a desire to continue the relationship to be more romantic and intimate, for example dating.
Unfortunately, this feeling is one-sided and he only considers the individual as an ordinary friend. As a result, someone who has this "more" feeling can be trapped in a relationship called the friendzone.
Characteristics of being stuck Friendzone
A person who is stuck in the friendzone may not say outright that he is more attracted to his friend. However, there are some things that can be recognized when you are stuck in the friendzone, namely:
- Treated just like any other friend
- Lack of time alone when you want to spend time alone with him, for example he often invites other people to join
- The "code" that you give is often wrong and not understood by him
- The more attention you give, be it in words or actions, is not reciprocated
Friendzone generally occurs because the person you love doesn't really have feelings as more than just friends, but still wants to have a good friendship. But sometimes, the friendzone can also be a cover to take advantage of or trap a "friend" in a toxic relationship.
Tips for Overcoming Bondage Friendzone
Being trapped in the friendzone can make a person feel various negative emotions, such as sadness, disappointment, anger, fear, shame, depression, and hopelessness. If these feelings cannot be controlled, they can lead to frustration, stress, heartbreak, or even depression.
To prevent these bad effects, you can do the following ways to get out of the friendzone:
1. Be honest about your feelings
Declaring feelings is not easy and it takes a lot of guts to do it. However, this is worth trying, if you are tired of holding back your feelings.
When you want to express it, look for the right moment and time. Make sure you're both in a good emotional state too, okay? Then, speak calmly, relax, and tell the truth about how you feel.
2. Respect the decision
When you express love, of course you expect your love to be reciprocated. However, if that hasn't happened yet, don't force him, okay? Remember, everyone has their own choices and considerations. You must be able to understand and respect his decision, even if this can hurt you.
3. Stay focused on friendship goals
It's normal to feel sad, angry, and disappointed when love is one sided. However, don't let this situation make your friendship with him stop there, okay.After you feel more calm and comfortable, try to refocus on the purpose of your friendship with him. A sense of awkwardness when interacting may exist, but gradually this can be dissipated with good friendships and fun activities that you usually do together.
4. Divert your mind
Instead of being sad because his decision doesn't match your expectations, try to do other things that can distract you, such as pursuing a hobby or trying something new that you've never done.
In addition, you can also pamper yourself to make your body more relaxed and avoid stress, for example by exercising, vacation or me time, facial treatments, spa, or maybe changing a new hairstyle.
Also try to stay positive when you get rejected, okay? Don't let your friendzone make you feel inferior or even hate yourself. Remember, feelings of love can't be forced and you can't love someone else, if you don't love yourself.
If you're stuck in the friendzone, come on, take action! Don't let your love for him destroy your friendship even to the point of harming yourself. Because, you have the right to be happy and get love and affection from someone who is sincere.
If after doing the tips above you can't move on, especially if this has interfered with your life or made you feel heartbroken or depressed, it might be time for you to ask a psychologist or psychiatrist for help.
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