It's a Danger of Fighting in Front of Children

Dissenting opinions that cause quarrels are common in conjugal relationships. However, fighting in front of a child not is wise choice , because can cause danger to his mental health.

Screams, insults, insults, and acts of violence that Mother and Father often show when fighting in front of Little One can leave a strong impression in his memory. These bad memories often affect the mental development of the Little One later.

What Is the Impact of Arguing in Front of Children?

Did Mother and Father know that you are a role model for Little One? If Mother and Father often quarreled in front of Little One, he might imitate Mother and Father, or even no longer regard Mother and Father as a role model they are proud of.

In addition, children depend on parents to get a sense of comfort and security. If you often see parents arguing, children can feel uncomfortable and scared.

Arguing in front of a child can also cause a variety of other negative impacts on the child, namely:

1. Making children stressed

A recent study revealed that parental quarrels witnessed by children can cause an increase in the production of stress hormones.

Even babies can be affected. When sleeping, the baby can record loud noises and screams around him. Besides disturbing his sleep, these loud noises can also interfere with his development.

2. Make children anxious and at risk of depression

Seeing his parents often quarrel can make children more anxious, even depressed. This relates to the negative thoughts that develop in a child's mind and his worry that this fight will lead to the divorce of his parents.

The child's fear of separating parents is very basic. When parents divorce, children will usually join one parent, and this can make them lose the figure of the mother or father.

3. Children are not close to siblings

If this fight leads to divorce, the child's relationship with his siblings can also be tenuous. Mother or Father may bring one child, and not both. Divorce finally separated them.

4. Children tend to be naughty

Conflicts in parents can make children feel less cared for. Finally, the child will seek attention in his own way, for example by doing mischief at home or problems at school.

5. Difficult to socialize with others

Children who often witness their parents quarrel tend to be difficult to establish relationships with other people. He feels ashamed if his friends know that his parents often fight, and eventually it becomes difficult to make friends.

Tips when Mother and Father Argue

Indeed there is no relationship without problems. Quarrels also sometimes can not be avoided. But to prevent the negative impact on your child due to this quarrel, there are a few tips that Mother and Father can do, namely:

• If there is a problem, as much as possible discuss it with a cool head and don't get carried away with emotion.
• If you want to fight, as much as possible avoid fighting in front of the child. Look for a quiet place, for example in a room or outside the home. Mother and Father can also find the right time, for example when your little school. If it's necessary, Mother and Father can leave it for a while at his grandparents' house.
• If you accidentally fight in front of Little One, tell him that Mother and Father are only arguing. Give him the understanding that discussing a problem is normal for parents. If you accidentally put out words that are harsh or too loud, explain to your child that this method is wrong, and that Mother and Father deeply regret it.
• Explain and reassure your child that your Father and Mother's household will remain fine after this debate.

If Mother and Father fight more often, do not hesitate to consult with a psychologist who specializes in marriage counseling. Do not let the fight between Mother and Father getting bigger and can no longer be covered up, until it finally explodes in front of the Little One, or even leads to the thing that is most feared by him, namely the divorce of Mother and Father.

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