Situationship, Living a Relationship Without Commitment
Are in a relationship that feels like dating but there is no clarity on the status and commitment of the He? If the answer is yes, you may be in a situation called the situationship. Come on, learn more about this type of relationship and the proper way to deal with it.
Basically, situationship is similar to a statusless relationship (HTS). Situationship is a term to describe a romantic relationship, but one that is carried out without commitment, relationship status, or long-term goals.

This type of relationship is at first glance similar to friends with benefits (FWB), namely a relationship that involves physical and sexual intimacy between two people. However, FWB has a limitation that each party involved agrees not to involve feelings in this relationship.
Meanwhile, when undergoing a situationship, there will be an emotional bond, with a superficial recognition and no clear boundaries or status.
Signs Situationship
Situationship is usually done by those who are not ready to start a commitment because they have just ended a relationship, have had a traumatic experience, or haven't had time for a serious relationship.
In addition, people who have recently moved to a city or live a nomadic life may also experience and undergo situationship. Here are some things that indicate that you and He are in a situationship:
- Can't define the relationship he has with him
- Only make short-term plans and no discussion of long-term plans
- Not really open in deeper and intimate conversation
- There is no consistency in the relationship, for example Si He often disappears without news or there is no fixed schedule to meet
- Not prioritizing each other
- Do not publish the relationship to others
- Feeling anxious and stressed about not getting a clear relationship
Deal with Situationship This Way
Situationship has its advantages and disadvantages. In some people, this relationship is chosen because it is considered to be less responsible and less emotionally draining.
People in non-committal relationships generally want to have intimacy with other people but still like the freedom in their lives.
Well, one of the things that can make the situationship not run smoothly is if one of the parties begins to have more expectations of the relationship. If you don't get clarity, then this condition can trigger feelings of low self-esteem, loneliness, anger, confusion, embarrassment, frustration, and stress.
So that you and Si Dia don't get caught up in this relationship and feel the bad effects, here are some things you can do:
Consider the good and the bad
When you realize your relationship with the He is included in the situationship, try deh consider the good and bad sides. Ask yourself, do you need this type of relationship and will it make you happy?
Consider also about your partner, is he able to accept, respect, and support this type of relationship?
Be honest about how you feel
If you feel you enjoy the situationship, talk to him. Likewise if you feel objected to this relationship. Avoid being passive and hope that the codes you convey through gestures can be understood by your partner.
Tell your partner clearly what you really hope for, what boundaries you want to set, and your needs about the relationship from the start to prevent hurt and disappointment in the future.
Learn how to have a healthy relationship
A healthy relationship doesn't always involve commitment. However, a healthy relationship is one that is built on open communication, trust, respect, intimacy, and makes you feel better.
If you feel that your relationship with him is far from a healthy relationship, think again. Remember, you have the right to be happy and deserve to be with people who love and respect you with all their heart.
If you're stuck in a situationship and find it difficult to end your relationship with him, try asking someone you trust for help. If necessary, consult a psychologist for the best advice to get out of this relationship and move on.
Label : Healthy living
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